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The Benefits
Those who experience our work consistently report that their lives have been impacted in a powerful way. This page presents some of the most common benefits people receive from doing this work. Use the links on the right to access specific topics within this page.
Addiction & Co-dependency
Addiction is often mis-understood. When we hear this word, we often associate it with something serious, heavy and negative such as alcoholism, drug addiction or sexual predators. However, a much milder, insidious type of addiction plagues most of our lives. It expresses itself in small ways such as the need to control, the impulse to defend against criticism, or the resistance we feel to receiving compliments and praise. The source of all addiction is our unconscious protection against receiving. As we block healthy ways of letting in love and attention we close our hearts and find alternative, indirect ways to feel good.
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The Embracing Change weekend retreat is by far one of the most powerful
and uplifting experiences you can give to yourself. Food
for the Body, Mind & Soul!
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Co-dependency has a lot in common with addiction. People who are co-dependant do not have a strong connection to their sense of self. Their lives are defined not by their own wants, needs and values, but those of others, in particular their spouse, children and families. They live at the effect of conditioning, feeling obligated to do, say and think a certain way. Many co-dependants distract themselves from feeling the pain of their situation either through superior or self rightious behaviour like teaching or giving advice, or by engaging in other addictive behaviours such as gambling, TV, drinking or isolating themselves from the world.
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I found the weekend to be an amazing experience. Not only did I have the
opportunity to gain a clearer insight into my own wants, I was able to have
fun and enjoy myself at the same time.
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Relationships & Intimacy
Starting a relationship is easy. Sustaining a relationship is harder. Keeping a relationship alive with ongoing and increasing intimacy is harder still. Do you find it difficult to stay in one relationship? Are you married but feel as if you are just 'friends' living in the same house? Has the passion left? Have you given up part of yourself in order to keep someone in your life? Do you distract yourself by keeping yourself busy and emotionally unavailable?
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Since particpating in this program I now have access to my passion, and my relationship that's been dead for years has come alive!
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Confidence & Direction
Have you settled for less than what you really want in life? Do you experience life as being mundane or boring? Does a part of you ask, "Is this all there is? How did I get here? Why did I settle for less than I deserve?" It takes a great deal of inner strength to live life to the full and to be happy. We often lose sight of our personal dreams, neglect our own boundaries and allow our desires for a better life to be trampled on by the masses moving in the opposite direction.
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I was amazed at how much value this course offered. The quality of facilitation and the information shared was incredible...
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It is likely you'll fit into one of two categories. Either you love what you do and want to take it to the next level, or your bored and frustrated with your job and can't find the courage to change your career and follow your dreams. Either way, Embracing Change will help you transform your career and give you clear direction. Most of us get caught in our perpetual need to make money and live comfortably, at the expense of doing what would really make us happy. Few of us realise that we can have both financial security and the freedom to do what we love. Embracing Change will show you how.
Parenting & Families
As a parent you want the best for your children. So let's start with some facts: Your child learns 50% of what it means to be intimate, open and loving in the first year of life. The other 50% is absorbed in the following TWO years. This means by the age of three your child has a mould, a hard wired experience of safety, intimacy, bonding and a sense of connection to the world. What's even more startling, is that the amount of love you give your child has little effect on this process. However, what IS important is how much love exists in the child's environment. The child learns about intimacy by witnessing and experiencing the connection and love between the parents and the family, as this is what creates a sense of safety. Without emotional safety, your child is vulnerable to developing addictive and co-dependant ways to get their needs met.
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Anyone considering being a parent MUST learn this stuff. I wish my parents knew about it when I was 2!
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Communication Skills
If you are like most people, you were brought up in an environment where you were spoken to in code. Code is defined as an indirect communication of an emotional need. An example would be asking for what another wants without first expressing your wants. During childhood and adolescence, children learn to decode and satisfy their parents needs and eventually, as they grow into adults, they begin to communicate in a similar fashion. This is why it is so hard to ask others for what we need emotionally. We end up communicating strategically in order to get what we want by giving as little emotional investment as possible. The consequence is that we live with closed hearts, feeling disconnected, isolated and alone.
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Now I have a new way to communicate with my friends and family... I realized I never really knew who they were until now. Thank you so much.
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